Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Happy Anniversary!

This past May, we celebrated being married for four years, together almost five now.  That's right, Dan Savage (@fakedansavage), we beat three years! Dan has had a lot of issues with poly folk and I believe issued an apology. Polyamory in the News posted an article back in August 2014 on this very matter. I'm not here to pick on Dan though.

I'm here to celebrate and honor the love our relationship has. Its uniqueness, it's laughter, and humor. Of course because life doesn't come without them, we also celebrate our sorrows and hurdles together.

Let's catch up....

Anyone who goes back and reads this blog from day one probably would have placed money on us not being together. From an outside perspective I wouldn't blame them. What kept us together though was this feeling, this knowledge that deep down inside, this relationship is right.

How are we? Life. IS. Good! Perfect? Nah, that would be boring.

No doubt that first year was tough. I had no clue how to fight, no clue how to accept unconditional love, and a hotel cart trolley full of baggage that needed to be unpacked. Furthermore there really aren't any books on our type of relationship.  How to work through the issues and not just break up because it's not "normal." We all had some issues that needed to be worked through. So that's what we did. And the benefits?  OH man, the benefits. Each one of us believes that the other person's happiness is vital to our own and because of that we work pretty well most of the time.Sometimes we fall out of sync and we just take some time and reconnect. We focus on each relationship organically (BIG KEY WORD there) and the triad as a whole. Time truly does go a long way to providing the trust needed to allow a relationship like ours to flourish.

I am so grateful for their love, for the love they share with each other and the love they share with me. We took a trip up to Flagstaff to celebrate our anniversary this year.  As always we had a blast, I look forward to many more trips!

What else helps keep us together?

1. Communication.
2. Complete transparency.
3. Honesty.
4. Communication.
5. Each person having a true desire to see the relationship succeed. 
6. Laughter
7. The desire each of us have to be a source of strength for the other.
8. Friendship
9. Love
10. Respect for each other.

Moving forward we look towards hopefully being able to have our marriage recognized as well. We hope to provide education and awareness and to shatter the mindset that only two people can love each other.

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