Well now, we shouldn't put this all on the man, let me say I love both of my spouses and will commit myself and my life to them "to love to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part."
That's suppose to be a security that marriage gives you. Otherwise it is just like dating. Why even bothered to get married. At least change your vows to say "until I feel like it is too hard and I want to walk away." Let's be honest. Let's take a look at Rush Limbaugh. On his 4th marriage, the longest lasting 10 years. Why should he get to be married four times but I can't marry once? I know a former co-worker who has been married three times yet she looks down upon me for my choices. REALLY? Well who the fuck is she?!
Good things in life tend never to be very easy to achieve. I'm working hard for my marriage (yep that's what I called it). I'm working hard to do the inter-personal work I need to do to be a good partner, to make it last, to learn that when I'm told I'm loved they really mean it. Not only do they really mean it, but they also believe in forever.
I just wish I'd have a chance to have that legally documented.